What would it look like to intentionally date your spouse?

This is Heidi Farrell on MyBridge Radio, helping to keep you connected.

So, is dating in marriage all that important? Well, here’s the thing: We all get comfortable over the years, but the excitement of dating doesn’t need to get thrown out with the weekly trash!  

Being emotionally connected to our spouse creates a secure attachment: It makes us want to go to our spouse to celebrate our joys, and seek out comfort in our disappointments.  

Sadly, the opposite is also true, and before long, a couple can feel like two ships passing in the night…roommates at best. It becomes easy to be snippy, critical, or downright silent to our spouse. There’s no friendship left to protect.

But dating our spouse can remind us why we got married in the first place and to begin to build security and friendship back into our marriages — that we’ll want to protect!  

Here’s a thought: What if we tune out all the excuses about time, money, or even too many past hurts with each other and make a point to find ways to date our spouse in little ways like eating breakfast together, sending a quick text.

Then, we can start to add in a little romance, like bringing him his favorite warm drink, or grabbing her a pretty bouquet of flowers, or even holding hands in the car together…even if it’s uncomfortable at first!

A little thoughtfulness can go a long way toward intentionally dating our spouse. This is Heidi Farrell, helping you fight for a marriage that is worth protecting!