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The latest research finds that couples who devote time specifically to one another at least once a week are markedly more likely to enjoy high-quality relationships and lower divorce rates, compared to couples who do not devote much couple time to one another.

We hope that dating will become a new habit that will benefit your marriage long after you’ve finished this challenge.

The following steps will help you begin your dating experience on a positive note:

  1. Commit to four dates. Plan dates around something you enjoy doing and that allows for conversation. Put the dates on your calendar and make any necessary arrangements for childcare.
    *note – put all 4 dates on calendar at the point you commit to “fight fo(u)r date night”
  2. Keep your commitment. Sometimes children get sick and problems arise. When this happens, reschedule your date for the same week, if possible. Creating and maintaining momentum is important because each date builds on the one before.
  3. Cultivate a sense of anticipation. Half the fun of having plans is eagerly anticipating them. Find ways to let your spouse know you’re looking forward to your date.
  4. Prepare. Before your date, read the chapter (either from the book or made available at and review the date guide for your date.
  5. Follow the guide for each date. Don’t use date time to deal with other relational issues. Focus on the topic of the date.
  6. Hold hands. It’s hard to fight or be negative when you’re holding hands.
  7. Get started! The key to building a strong and growing marriage is taking the time to invest in and work on the relationship. Keep the dates simple, practical, interactive, inexpensive and fun!
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David and Claudia Arp. 10 Great Dates to Energize Your Marriage Updated and Expanded Edition. Zondervan, 1997, 2016